Health & Safety

November 1, 2013

Family Advocacy promotes awareness of domestic violence

Staff Sgt. Samón Carver, 412th Medical Support Squadron, was one of 23 volunteers that wore made-up injuries to bring more awareness about domestic violence to the Edwards community. From the experience Carver learned the importance of approaching a potential domestic violence victim with sensitivity.

A group of 23 volunteers, both military and civilian, wore moulage bruises and cuts to work Oct. 24.

As they worked and went about their day, they observed the reactions of those around them. Some encountered strangers that stared and walked away without saying a word.

Others were asked by their co-workers if something was wrong. One woman, while in a meeting, was loudly asked, “Who punched you in the face?”

Oct. 24 was Domestic Violence Awareness Day and the made-up bruises were part of an exercise, sponsored by Family Advocacy, to raise the level of awareness at Edwards AFB.

“We want to see if people are paying attention to victims of domestic violence,” said Susan Cartwright, Family Advocacy program outreach manager. “We want to see who is observant and who is going to ask.”

Staff Sgt. Samón Carver, 412th Medical Group, NCOIC of Outpatient Records, was one of the volunteers that day. Only half of the people she encountered asked if she was okay. She observed that people seemed “uncomfortable” asking about the bruises on her face. Only those who knew her on a personal basis asked at all. Of those who did ask, some came across indiscreet, asking in public settings.

“I think that I would be less likely to open up about what was going on in a room full of people with everyone staring at me. It was embarrassing and it made me think if the bruise wasn’t make-up and was real, I would have been emotional or would have made up a story,” said Carver.

“Awareness cannot be expressed enough. I think that, as a society, we should be more responsive to others’ needs, to include when someone needs help. The whole ‘I don’t want to get involved’ idea should go away. Should we see someone with a black eye, busted lip or scrape on the face, ask if the person is okay. Ask if they have sought medical attention or spoken with someone. This society is [comfortable asking] about everything else but too scared to ask about each other’s wellbeing? That makes no sense to me,” said Carver.

Staff Sgt. Brandon Harris, 412th Maintenance Logistics Squadron, volunteered with his wife to show that domestic violence or maltreatment can sometimes be mutual between partners.

Cartwright added that people are often reluctant to get involved in another person’s life. In some cases, they may not have even noticed that something was wrong. She advised that if you see someone with a bruise, don’t make an assumption as to its origin, whether it’s domestic violence or not.

“Let’s flip it over for a second and ask how you would feel if you found out that a person had been involved in a domestic violence situation. Maybe something more horrible happened and [it resulted in a fatality] you knew early on and didn’t do anything about it,” said Cartwright. “I try to put myself in that mind frame.”

If an injury is related to domestic violence the next step is to see if the alleged victim is thinking about reporting it. Much like sexual assault cases, Family Advocacy offers both restricted and unrestricted reporting options. While an unrestricted report is sometimes necessary, a restricted report can prove to be very beneficial to an alleged victim. A restricted report is about safety planning, emotional support and collecting resources. There is no medical attention or investigation at that point, but a report can be made unrestricted at any time.

“I would love for more of the base to be aware of that because a lot of times a person who is in that cycle of violence may not be ready to leave just yet. They can feel a lot of judgment from people about that, but they might need time to plan things out. They may need to get birth certificates and cash and plan how to get out,” said Capt. Morgan Bergman, 412th MDG, Family Advocacy officer.

According to Bergman, it takes the average domestic violence victim seven attempts to leave before they’re successful. When the alleged victim does finally leave, they are at their highest risk of fatality because the offender is most angry at that time.

“While it’s not going to feel good to have someone come in my office, create a safety plan and go back into the home where the abuse is happening, it’s on their terms. They know their life and they know what’s safe and what’s not safe for them,” said Bergman.

Master Sgt. Justin Jerome (right), 411th Flight Test Squadron, volunteered to have Master Sgt. Valerie Vasquez, 412th Medical Group, create scratch marks on his neck to show that men are victims of domestic violence too.

Cartwright noted that people who struggle with violence need safety plans too. Her goal is to help prevent domestic violence by creating a new skill set that offers an alternative action to violence.

“It’s important because we have zero tolerance for domestic violence and yet it continues,” Cartwright said. “It’s important to me because I’d like people to have other skills and tools to handle their emotions.”

Family Advocacy participates in several awareness months including child abuse and teen dating violence.

“It’s all with the intention of reducing harm to our population,” said Bergman.

While their services are primarily available to active duty, they can provide information, such as how to obtain a restraining order or find a shelter, to anyone in need of help. They also offer prevention classes that are open to the entire Edwards population.

Domestic violence isn’t the only kind of maltreatment that takes place. Belittling and withholding necessities are also examples of maltreatment in the home. In homes with adult maltreatment, children are also maltreated 30 to 60 percent of the time, according to Bergman.

Bergman noted that the Air Force wants to reach families early, before maltreatment has a chance to grow. One of the biggest causes of maltreatment in the home is a lack of communication or poor communication.

Family Advocacy also offers outreach prevention classes that can help with stress management, anger management, parenting skills and communication skills.

Bergman noted that one of her favorite programs is a new parent support program which includes in-home visitation for families with a child three years of age or younger. There is also a strength-based family therapy program that is completely voluntary and private.

“Seeing the cases that come through here all the time is what personally drives my passion for these events. If we can help just that one person, one family, one victim, one child, then all of the effort has been worth it,” said Bergman.

If you are suffering from domestic violence or maltreatment, call Family Advocacy at (661) 277-5292, or call the Department of Defense National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE.

 




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